If a person is rich in the respect of family, friends, love, life and the more meaningful sentimental ways of being rich, values, morales, wisdom, creativity and such like then obviously money helps too contribute to happiness. It simply adds to the ‘ rich’ list! If you give a person the money and wealth without the rest of the above, can they possibly be genuinely happy?

Maybe? Maybe not?

What i do realise is that money HELPS to bring happiness, in the respect of it can let you focus on what makes you happy in life, what your passion is and what gives you a sense of fullfillment. Rather than spending all day doing a ‘whatever’ job to earn the money to fund your next project!

Money HELPS to give you a boost to start your career, tackle your objectives, reach for your dreams and have a comfortable ride along the way.

It enables you to make your own journey through life as smooth as possible and the freedom of choice rather than what is appropriate or affordable, it is less stressful allowing you to enjoy, apreciate and be happy!

So people, do remember when business is booming, you have made your millions or you have won the lottery that really the whole package is needed in my opinion to be a rich person and be happy.

 Do remember your friends and family, your values and morales and not get caught in the hype that allows people to drastically change. For the worst need i add!

Money can contribute to happiness, but as with anything a solid foundation within is needed to reach complete happiness. Money alone i don’t think can bring the same thing, however for now ……………………….. lets go make some money!!!!!

Can money buy happiness?

What is rich??

Two people choosing and wanting to be together because they had lots in common, liked and loved eachother, had great respect, shared the same humour and had many interests similar to one another. How can things suddenly turn the other way?. Like the wind changing direction taking the yacht off couse, two people both trying to steer the yacht back on track but turn different ways untill the yacht is starting to disappear off the radar.

Where the communication is failing, what initially starts as mere conversation turns into a feeling of annoyance. Where a resolution seems non existant. When one wants to talk it through and calmly both state their opinions and atleast find a common ground. The other however would rather leave it alone, claiming it’s stressful and just evacuates from situation, leaving the issues unresolved for them to pop right back up again at a later date.

where do you go from here?

Two very logical, intelligent people that have at this point in time got completely different views on a situation! any situation! That used to think very much the same on most topics of discussion now finding themselves in an unknown domain of which is making them both unhappy!

One feeling that for arguements sake they have to back down or atleast wave the white flag to move forward or atleast not be fighting against eachother hoping for some sort of miracle to happen! After all life is short and alot of the problems are small and seem to be minor after thinking about it, however the small things are also similar to the bigger things ahead!

Is time apart a good idea? Is it not?

Is it just a gradual way of breaking up and heading to the destination of ‘single’ allowing eachother to slowly drift away to do their own thing and persue happiness whilst maintaining some form of contact making the blow alot less dramatic?

Is it a break that is needed to see clearly, to miss the person, to maybe realise the things that you are together for? The positives that get lost amongst the longness! But in doing this do u then take the risk that you may actually lose the person for good? The one you love!

Which is the right choice? This is the question!

Is it your damned if you do and your damned if you dont scenario ?

For many people it is a route to happiness, to a new start and a fresh perspective on the relationship, but for others this is a route of hurt, pain, tears and then a challenge to rebuild and move forward with life!

What when this person is like your best friend? Is your partner? Somebody that you feel so strongly for it hurts? Someone that you have let inside your heart and become a big part of you?

Surely these things are worth  holding on to? Surely two people who were once so good before, and not just in the honeymoon period, i mean for a long while were so compatible can be again?

But with no communication this seems along way off?

Is fate just taking its course? Is it time to move on separately? Is this just a rough patch to make the relationship stronger long term maybe?

Who knows? Decisions are very hard to make in life, particularly when the heart is involved. Nobody likes to mke the wrong decision, the wrong choice but when it comes to the crunch, sometimes the decision NEEDS to be made!!

TIME APART?? GOOD OR BAD??

 So i started to explore my options! Hmmmm, this is where it all started!

What initially was as an idea and basic plan briefly floating around my head space, ended up in a huge amount of confusion leading to a BLANK! kinda like when your shopping for that important outfit you need for an occasion and you have an annoying random headache so everything seems so much louder, so fast, people and cars, buses and bicycles rushing around so you end up retiring from the shopping expedition with nothing to show for it!

That was how i felt, so i decided to sleep on it hoping for a fresh perspective the next day.

Woke up nice and early, many things flowing through my head, so as always i started to write things down, to collate the thoughts in some kind of order on paper.

In the process of doing this i had a glimmer of sunshine appear through the clouds!

Why now am i so interested in what next? Why do i feel the need to have to do something else, something extra? I didn’t at this point know the answer! So i took a little time to reflect on the past 5 years and to gently brain storm my achievements and goals that i had already reached to date.

I realised at this point in time how easy it is to forget things that we achieve, that as a human being we tend to brush over or forget the smaller things that often lead to bigger and better places. Unintentionally i might add, but we are all at some point guilty of this and do not realise!

Its great to have passion, drive, motivation and a plan in which you would like your life to go, however life is a rollercoaster with ups and downs, life is a journey in which like it or not we are faced with change, life is an empty book for us to write our version!

so what i realised

I was so busy looking at my options and what i was to do next that i had forgotten my main aim, forgotten the bigger picture, just for a short while but i did forget or did not realise the full horizon awaiting due to the clouds and fog that had been inside my head blocking my vision.

I am supposed to have lots of options, i am also allowed to not have a specific objective at this point in time. I had been a high achiever in one respect or another for the past few years and spent alot of my life at a fast pace, and doing lots for others so i was allowed to have a breather and appreciate some of the things i had strived so hard for. So i did, and i am!

I now have an outline of where i am going and the journey ahead. As for the route, Well i realise i have many routes to the same destination so i will aim for my preferred route and if there happens to be unavoidable roadworks or traffic along the way i will divert to the A roads, so to speak! May take a little longer getting there but the destination will still be reached!

It is easy to look around and see the progression of others and although being very happy and genuinely respectful of the invidual, it can make us look at ourselves, especially if at this point in time we are feeling at a stand still or a turning point.

However, it is important that we  realise it is ok to step out to breathe, to take a look around, to reflect knowing that after we are fully charged again we will proceed along our path and continue the jouney ahead!

Realise your achievements however big or small and appreciate them for what they are!

Don’t forget that there is always more than one way to your dreams or objectives in life. Do not be diverted away if it is what you truely want, just seek an alternative route! Things always appear in life to test us, to deter us and to make us work for what we really want but through all of these things we become stronger people!

After all, nothing worth having comes easy right ?!